Today I’d like to share another post being transparent in my struggle and what I’m learning from it. Today I want to talk about Identity.
I’ve been struggling with knowing who I really am for some time. I often feel that I’m not the same person as I used to be, that I’m not reaching my full potential. Feeling confident is hard, but it never used to be.
One day, I found an article written by a psychologist about identity crisis. She wrote that people start to question their identity after a foundational shift in their life, whether it is where they work, live, or in family situations, etc. I realized this is my problem. Not only did I start college, but I don’t have a room at home anymore, and my family is turned upside down. With this happening, I have lost a foundation- a norm that has been there my entire life. This creates a feeling of instability which robs me of confidence in who I am.
In the last month, I made more of an effort to put my foundation in God. The Bible says God is our Rock. If we stand on Him, we stand firmly on solid ground (Matthew 7:24-27). In order to make God my Rock, I have to study His Word, do what it says, and depend on God every single day. And when I depend on God, my foundation never shifts, because God is constant and trustworthy.
With this dependence on God, I learn more about who God is and about myself. Knowing I’m created in God’s image and being loved by Him slowly reveals to me my identity in Him. I feel more confident because I know He is guiding me. I know I am valuable because of what He has done for me. And I am learning to love every part of myself, because God created me and God doesn’t make mistakes.
Through this struggle, I have learned that without God and self approval, we never reach our full potential. We can’t do anything without God (John 15:5). If you feel like you are doing than you could be, I encourage you to check your heart in two matters: how you see yourself and how dependent you are on God. You might find that you have done what I did- I let my struggle become my identity.
You may feel insecure about yourself- but you don’t have to be an insecure person. You may feel alone- but you don’t have to do it alone. You may struggle with sin- but you don’t have to be a sinner. Let the Truth of God’s Word rise above how you feel. Focus on what God says about you, not on your emotions or doubts. After all- how can God be wrong?
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