Anger and Rage in our Youth

angerandrageLast week, I was blessed to serve at one of Michigan’s Youth Camps. Each night we had a powerful service and teens lives were being changed. The presence of God was so heavy in the room every single service. It was beautiful and such an amazing experience.

One night the speaker felt moved by God to have a special alter call that was completely unplanned. The speaker said to a room of 400 teens that he felt God wanting an alter call for those struggling with hatred and rage. The speaker said he felt at least twelve people would respond.

At first I didn’t think much of this. But I remember when the speaker said twelve people, I thought “Wow, that’s a decent amount for this kind of alter call.”

60+ students lined up at the alter with tears in their eyes.

I didn’t know why this surprised me, but I pondered it in my heart for the rest of the day. We often focus on the pain teens suffer from in today’s society. We want to tell them about the healing power of Christ, that they don’t have to continue living the way they do. But we forget to tell these teens to forgive those who have hurt them. We forget that even though they are victims, they also have unresolved feelings that need to be addressed.

I also think teens don’t always bring up this struggle because they don’t want to lose our sympathy. They don’t want to lose the few people that understand them. So they hold their anger in and don’t want to be free from it.

Please keep this thought in prayer and ask God if there are people and youth in your life that need to face these issues. Pray for the teens of this generation so they will not be kept in the bondage of unforgiveness.

What do you think about this event? Please share any thoughts you have below so we can chat!

Until next time, God bless!

~Lillian ❤

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3 Things Most People Misunderstand About Teens

missunderstandOh adolescents, a mystery from he beginning of time. But why are adults so complexed by teens when they were once teens themselves? The world may never know. However, a few things can be said about how people miss understand them.

I am called to youth ministry, which means God as chosen me to show His love and teach teenagers. I will say, as I am still a teen myself (19 years old, if that counts in your opinion) I am not an expert. But the way I see it is that with being between the two age groups, I can understand these misconceptions and speak on them.

So the following statements are misconceptions about teenager (especially the American teen) that most adults seem to believe- even if they don’t vocalize it, it can be felt or implied. If this was changed, I believe so many things would change for the better; not just for the teen but for everyone.

1. They are children.

Well, they are, but they aren’t. Teens still have a lot of learning to do, they make a lot of mistakes and act immature often. But we should not treat them like kids. Sometimes we question why teens act like kids years after they hit the big 13, but do we ever analyze how we treat them? And no. being harder on your teen does not mean you are treating them less like a kid. It makes the teen feel more discouraged from maturing. Why not instead of yelling, encourage? Why not show them what it means to be mature instead of expecting them to figure it out on their own?

2. They have all the time in the world.

In today’s world, most teens are just as busy as adults. We often tell teens to do things, especially in the church, and expect them to be able to do it in all their “free time”. When in reality, there is not much free time for many teens. Between school, sports, extracurricular, church, clubs, volunteering etc. there isn’t much more time. When I was in high school, I didn’t get home until 9 o’clock most nights, and that is without spending time with friends.

3. They can’t dedicate to anything.

Sure, teens often have fleeting passions, but with the right guidance, teens have so much potential. If teens stepped up to the plate and give it their all, they can do amazing things with the passion they have. In their book Do Hard Things, the Harris twins encourage teens to challenge the low expectations upon them, and the results are amazing.

So next time you are talking to a group of teens, keep this in mind, and they might surprise you! Take them under your wing, mentor them spiritually, and you will see a side of them they don’t let most see.

The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.

~Samuel 16:7b

A Letter to 16 Year Old Me (In less than 100 words)

Dear 16 Year Old Me,

Me when I was 16 years old.

Me when I was 16 years old.

In only 100 words, I want to tell you the best advice I can give you. I’ve learned a lot in the past 3 years. Please consider all these things.

Love your youth. Make everyday an adventure.

Pray more. Don’t be anxious or afraid.

Don’t let your fire go out. Don’t stop being passionate.

Reach out more. Focus on others. Love and love and love.

Don’t beat yourself up. There is no condemnation.

And absolutely most of all, learn to love change. Because it’s coming, and there is no stopping it.

With love and God bless,

Lillian ❤

Write a letter to your 16 year old self in less than 100 words! Post it and let me know. 

The Final Bell Has Rung!

On May 23rd, I had my final day of academic classes at my high school. It was finally real- the curtain was closing on this scene and opening up to a new one. Graduation is now not so far off and neither is college or adulthood. A few tears were shed in AP Literature and AP US History, but still I was glad to be leaving, and I still am. I’m excited for my future, and no longer scared. I can’t wait for Bible college especially.

It’s crazy looking back at the 13 years I spent in public high school, because it truly never felt like it would end. The idea of not having to go to school is odd until it’s actually happening.

So I finished all my finals and now it is senior week and come Friday, I’ll have my diploma!

Don’t Play With Fire~A Blog on Teen Dating (Song of Songs 3:5)

I wrote this blog post with young teen girls in mind, but anyone no matter age or gender is welcome to read it. Bringing teen girls to Christ is my calling into ministry which is what has made this blog post so personal to me, along with my story and my experiences. 

Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the doves of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.

Song of Songs is one of my favorite books in the Bible. It is a symbolic story of love and companionship filled with sweet words and wise advice. In this verse, King Solomon’s new wife tells the women of Jerusalem to wait for love until the time is right. But what does that mean?

First of all, I want to say that I write this blog not recommending a specific age or time but I write about the effort put into finding love. In almost every magazine for the ages of 10 and up, you will find articles such as How To Get Him To Like You and How to Get a Boyfriend. Girls are told that they can flirt their way into the boy’s heart. I remember trying to do this in middle school and my early years of high school. However, the verse above advises us not to do this.

Why not try to find a boyfriend? Often, it becomes a waste. You try to hard to get this boy to like you and if he says no, you get hurt. If he says yes, the relationship will not be a good one. A forced relationship often means the two are not right for each other, and the relationship can be for selfish reasons. Wanting a boyfriend because he’s cute, or you are lonely, or you want to have fun is not a good reason to start a relationship. Also, when you enter a relationship you give your heart to them, then when you give your heart to so many boys until “the one” comes, you will not be able to give a full and healthy heart to him. I know not having a boyfriend when you are surrounded by today’s media and your own friends who have relationships is very hard, but the pain of waiting is worth it. Imagine how happy your future husband will be when he learns that he’s the only one to have the privilege of loving you. Imagine that handsome prince you grew up hearing about- he’s that special to you and deserves your whole heart.

Girls try to hard to get a boy to like them, when really the best way to find love is to not look for it at all. A good example of this is the story of Ruth, who focused on God until He sent the man of her dreams to her.  If you want a wonderful relationship full of love and happiness that leads to a marriage one day, stop looking for one. Focus on your relationship with Jesus, be happy as a single woman, and when the time is right, God will send you your man and everything will fall into place. No relationship is perfect, but the relationship that was patiently waited for will be blessed.

5 Things I Learned From Being Dolly

unnamed (2)As some of you may know, I was recently in my school’s musical production of Annie Get Your Gun. In the show, I played the lead role of Dolly Tate, a middle-aged show woman who was a Frank Butler’s, a shooting champion in Buffalo Bill’s Wild West Show, assistant.

As the musical was originally written in the 1940s and rewritten in the 1960s, there were a few racists themes (and not to mention atrocious harmonies!!!) throughout the show, pertaining only to Native Americans. These theme’s were carried out by none other than me, oddly enough.

So overall, my character was an old, racist hag who was hated by everybody. Hopefully needless to say, the character was very much not like me at all. However, from day one Dolly and I got along pretty well and apparently my acting job as a rotten and snotty woman was 100% believable. I had fun being Dolly, and it was amazing how quickly I could go from little, smiling lily to racist and crazy Dolly. Nonetheless, I loved Dolly and being this racist old hag taught me a lot about me and about life.

5. If You Feel Ridiculous, Don’t Stop. 

These are the leads of AGYG on our last dress rehearsal night.

These are the leads of AGYG on our last dress rehearsal night.

Both the stage and life are about having fun and giving it your all. When I first stepped on stage as a freshman, I was scared and timid and I hid in the ensemble. But I didn’t have as nearly as much fun as I should have. Dolly was a very over-the-hill and she flailed her arms a lot to get the attention, so as I was acting, giving it my all and not being scared of looking silly was important. And that proved to bring the audience a great performance and I had a lot of fun. So it is with life, giving everything I got is essential and not being scared to look a little silly let’s me do that.

4. Hard Work Pays Off

Some ensemble members during one of our late night dress rehearsals.

Some ensemble members during one of our late night dress rehearsals.

The musical took 3 months to put together, and although it sounds like a lot of time, it didn’t feel like enough. In the last month of rehearsals, we had to pack in extra hours and extra work. Two weeks before the show I was at the school till 8 PM rehearing, and during school I was painting the set during my study hall hours. This left me tired and worn out, however show weekend was well enough a reward! I was so happy that my friends and family came to the show and the feeling you get after you pull off an amazing scene is unlike any other. The chaos of tech week taught me that hard work really does pay off it you allow it.

3. The Show is a Team Effort 

Many people who are leads often forget how important each person on stage is. From the smallest middle schooler to the most annoying techie (my brother), each and every person is important to the show! When I was an ensemble member, I did not realize my importance because no one every made me feel like I was important to the show. This year, as a lead, I made sure not to exclude myself from the ensemble. The director also made sure to emphasize the

The cast during our bows

The cast during our bows

importance of the ensemble’s acting. The cast was amazing with this, I’ve never been part of such a fun and active cast, and the audience noticed. The group, in any environment is important, and it’s important to realize that.

2. Time Flies

My friend and fellow color guard member Sam and I, who I will be very sad to leave this year!

My friend and fellow color guard member Sam and I, who I will be very sad to leave this year!

So my school has the tradition of a senior speech the last night of the show to the rest of the cast as we get ready for the curtain to open. Needless to say, I was in tears. I couldn’t believe that it was my last year. The past four years were only possible to live through because of things like the musical. And this year with the cast was the best of all time. My last show was just another reminder of how high school is ending, and I’m excited for what’s to come, but I’m also sad that it’s all going to be over.

1. Dreams to Come True (As corny as it sounds) 

I remember being little and wishing I was a lead in a musical at my school. As a freshman, I thought it nearly impossible, but it actually happened! I feel that God has blessed me my senior year because all my little high school dreams are coming true: I am color guard captain, I

Me as Dolly in my favorite costume, my Act II gown.

Me as Dolly in my favorite costume, my Act II gown.

got a lead role in my musical, and I was just asked to sing the star-spangled banner this weekend! These little dreams from when I was a young girl are actually happening, and it’s crazy! Praise God for all these blessings 🙂

Get Wisdom (Proverbs 4:5-7)

5 Get wisdom, get understanding;
    do not forget my words or turn away from them.
Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you;
    love her, and she will watch over you.
The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom.
    Though it cost all you have, get understanding.

~Prov 4:5-7 NIV

The book of Proverbs has a lot to say about wisdom, and rightfully so seeing it was written by the wisest man in history, King Solomon. The first eye-opening thing I notice about the passage above is that Solomon writes to “get wisdom” instead of “be wise”. To me, this shows that wisdom is something you attain and earn, not something you are born with. Being unwise is not part of who someone is, no matter how often they choose to make unwise decisions. It is up to each of us to develop wisdom.

Another distinction Solomon shares with us is that wisdom is not knowledge or how smart you are; wisdom is “understanding” or “good judgement” (as the NLT translation puts it) and is making good decisions.

So besides understanding, what is wisdom? Well James 3:17 describes it like this:

But the wisdom that comes from Heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.

Wisdom is something from Heaven, not from anything worldly or made by man. Wisdom is pure and peaceful with others; it is also considerate of other people but also willing to be humble and submit to correction. Being wise means being full of mercy and carrying out good for the Lord. Wisdom is unbiased and sincere in its view.

Where can we get this amazing wisdom? First, we can go to the Word of God. David says in Psalms that God’s Word “is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” This means that the Bible will guide us and light the path ahead for us. Also, the Bible is the Word of God so it will always give us holy wisdom that will not fail us. 

We can also seek wisdom by praying to God for it. James 1:5 says:

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

If we ask God for wisdom, just like Solomon did, God will gift us with wisdom through the Holy Spirit that is inside you (1 Corinthians 12:8). Solomon was given one wish from God and he wished for wisdom, and God made him the wisest man on earth. God can give us wisdom as well, as long as we pray for it and seek it.

I close with this thought: why is wisdom so important? Well, Verse 6 above states that wisdom will protect us. I take that to mean that being wise will keep us from making decisions we will later on regret. But also Proverbs 3:13-18 says that wisdom is much more valuable than anything on this earth. So go and ask God for wisdom, and see how you and your life will change.

Blogging Challenge- Day 2: 20 Facts about me!

Blogging Challenge- Day 2: 20 Facts about me!

Sorry guys! I did finish this post yesterday, however I forgot to schedule it to post!

Alright, 20 Facts about me, in case your interested in any way. Here we go!

  1. I go to an Assemblies of God church.
  2. I want to go to Northpoint Bible College next year.
  3. I want to study youth ministry to become a youth pastor.
  4. My favorite color is purple.
  5. I love all things that shine, sparkle or glitter!
  6. I have 3 younger siblings, 2 brothers and a sister.
  7. I’m a ministry intern at my church under Pastor Jay
  8. I sing for Fine Arts and went to Nationals in Louisville.
  9. I also write stories, poems and articles.
  10. I’m an AP student (college level classes in high school)- Last year I took English and European History, and this year I am taking US History and Literature.
  11. I love musicals- I a staring in my school’s musical this year as Dolly Tate.
  12. I’m a bookworm, I love to read anything and everything!
  13. I am color guard captain at my school, absolutely love guard!
  14. I addicted to coffee, but I love tea too!
  15. I turn 18 in a month!
  16. I babysit for a job.
  17. I’ve been in a relationship for almost 2 years.
  18. My favorite verse is Luke 1:45 “Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!”
  19. I hope to become a worship leader as well.
  20. I am working on a project, an internet ministry for teen girls. Please stay tuned for more info!

What is an interesting fact about you?

Blogging Challenge- Day 1: My Blog’s Name

Blogging Challenge- Day 1: My Blog's Name

 

The name of my blog came from the moment when I realized the struggle I was having in the beginning of my Senior year. I was growing up fast, transitioning from teen to adult, and it can be scary somedays and exciting during others. I wanted to start my blog to share my experience as I moved from teen to adult and all this different struggles that came along with it.

The God part of my blog is a given. I am a Christian. And I knew that I wasn’t on fire for God as I once was, and I wanted and still do want to get back to that. I need to depend on God in this time and spend more time with Him, finding time in my busy schedule.

And being busy is really what my life has become and probably will stay this way. I am always running from place to place, always have something to do. But I know that this is God preparing me for the life ahead and the busy job that is to come. Learning to cope when busy and stressed, and finding time for what’s truly important, like God and family, is what God’s trying to show me.

I know that my blog is and will help me with all these things. These three focuses of my life right now are why I titled my blog “Growing Up, God, and Being Busy”. Thank you for reading!

Why did you choose the title of your blog?

Time is ticking…

Recently, every time I look to the date I gulp or gasp inside a little.

You see, next month is my birthday. And as January comes to a close, I am getting more and more anxious. I simply I don’t want to grow up. But it’s inevitable. Aging feels like I’m going 50 mph towards a moose and my brakes just gave out. (Side note: you know you live in New England when you have nightmares of getting into accidents with moose and deer, no joke, I had one on the way home yesterday).

Every day that has passed since I started this blog has shown me that “making an adventure of it” is easier said than done. It’s like no matter what I do, I can’t find appeal to growing up like I used to. I’m not looking forward to bills and being in debt. I don’t want to find out what struggles I will find in college and beyond. And most of all, I don’t want to give up being lazy! Seniorites is kicking my be-hind more than ever, but the “I’m a teenager, leave me be” excuse is getting old. Oh wait, no that’s me!

I don’t want grey hair or monthly bills. I don’t want responsibility or duty. I’m even getting nervous over getting married and having a family far down the road!

Alas, I know that if I continue to dwell on my worries I will just become more sour. I need to sit up, suck it up, and go forward. I need to trust God and deal with my issues.No more wining, just do. That’s all part of growing up, right?

Thanks for dropping by for a little tid-bit of my thoughts! God bless!